Re: 1-year old beginner, big brother is a Wahlgren's veteran
Hi maguelonne and welcome back
You've made a great decision, half of the job is already done
But before doing the actual job you have to study thoroughly the GNS-book. So start with some reading:
before getting to the "technical" stuff. Ok?
we will have the two kids in the same room, their room. The older child is quite happy about the fact that they are going to share rooms, however, he does not like it so much when the younger one cries very loudly.
They will both be happy to share room once things have settled. So do not worry about that.
During the cure, however, it is better if they sleep in separate rooms. There might be some nights of action and the elder son might be disturbed. If the apartment is very small it might be preferable to have the older son sleeping somewhere else for some nights (until the younger son has understood what the jingle is about).
Once the jingle is in use, it will not disturb the 'other' child. I have three children (4, 2 and 1 years old) sleeping in the same room and it happens that the baby wakes up at night. I have some times been jingling outside their door now and then for a total time of 30 minutes and that does not wake up the older boys. As your older son is already familiar with the jingle it will be even more easy.
When several kids share room it is even more important to check that the room is pitch dark at night. Do the test day-time, you should not be able to see anything once your eyes are used to the dark.
The older child has developed a bad habit (that we have not fought, because of our exhaustion after the arrival of baby #2) of getting up during the night and joining us in our room and end the night in a crib that we have left next to our bed. The same crib as the one we are planning on using. Once we put it in the kids' room, when the older one gets up during the night, he will not find it in our room. And if we bring him back in the kids' room, we have a high chance of getting a tantrum that will for sure wake up the younger child. How should we do things?
I suggest you explain to the older boy what is about to happen: that he and his brother will now sleep together
- the whole night
- in their own room
. You can also have a party to celebrate this new era that starts, maybe give each boy a special toy friend to have in bed from now on. Move the bed with his help into their room so that he realizes what happens.
Regarding your question about naps, where to sleep and so on, everything is about your attitude. A terrific tool is the bed time-laugh. Both kids should be laughing out loud before getting to bed and the actual putting to bed should be QUICK. Lights out and JINGLE. Do not thing that things will be difficult, because if you do they sure will. Simply consider that you're doing your kids a favor to learn them how to enjoy sleep in their own bed. Which is, by the way, a pretty good gift to give your children.
- Finally, how do we replace the rocking for naps in the crib? Is it the buffing?
Read through the GNS before you start the cure.
You will not need to physically assist your child after the first night(s). The jingle (if necessary) will do the job. The buffing is used in the beginning of the cure to help the child to calm in his own bed. Your current habit of rocking your child to sleep will no longer be needed as the cure will help your child to appreciate to fall asleep on his own. But as your younger son is already 1 year old, I'm not sure I would recommend buffing if he's not already used to it. Fanning might be the perfect tool for you. Read more in the Tool box about buffing and fanning and then decide how to do.
This is something to start with.
So, first of all, back to the book
and then welcome back if you have anything else on your mind.
Do not hesitate to post your schedule before starting the cure.